So! Sara and Nehemiah are now married. The wedding was beautiful, the bride looked gorgeous, and it all went off mostly as planned. I say mostly, because, well, no one really anticipated a snowstorm back when this thing was being planned. Sara had decided on a destination wedding to Colorado Springs so everyone could enjoy beautiful Colorado, they could get some awesome pictures, and so on.
And the day before the wedding . . . this happened.
Correct. A snowstorm. Lots of snow and super cold weather do not make for easy wedding conditions. Especially when all the guests are flying in from out of town. Still, I must say the wedding was still a monumental success. Because the weather came and we were all forced to just roll with it and at the end of April 18th, 2009, Sara was officially Mrs. Hanson, and everyone was smiling and happy and feeling blessed. And if I’ve learned anything, I’ve learned that it’s impossible to plan every detail of a wedding. Something unexpected (or dreaded!) always happens. And it rarely matters afterward.
The church where Sara and Nemo married is in downtown Colorado Springs, Shove Chapel. It’s amazing. And the reception had this Jane Austen-type theme going on that was fabulous. The bridal party even had to perform this Jane Austenish dance at the very beginning of the reception. Let me just say that I am not the world’s greatest dancer. And being coordinated in front of lots of people has never been my strong point. Still, despite these problems, everything was just so fun. It was one of those weddings where you sigh afterward and think, This was such a good day. And maybe part of the happiness and satisfaction comes from seeing a couple like Sara and Nemo receive blessings from heaven. It’s hard to find a couple with more integrity than these two. You can’t help but admire and respect them–and love how they truly admire and respect each other–and see the strength of their individual and combined faith. It’s easy to be happy at weddings where all of that is being celebrated.
And after crazy blizzard weather Friday and Saturday–during all of the driving and last minute details and rushing around and problem hair appointments and missing unity candles and taking the fastest family pictures ever because it was freezing–well, Sunday morning the weather was absolutely glorious. And that reminded me that some things are just out of our control. And it has to be that way, and it’s really okay. It doesn’t really matter. I think of seeing Sara and Nemo saying (and signing) I do–and I know that April 18th was a perfect day in every way that does matter. So the wedding has ended but the marriage has just begun!
The whole idea of what’s in our control and what’s not is something I’ve been wrestling with lately. Because at times it feels like no one is in control of anything, and that makes everything feel like chaos, and that makes me uneasy. I don’t think it’s so hard to surrender to the idea that God is in control–because with that belief comes the relief that someone really is in control of this messy world. But what if sometimes it just seems like no one is in control? I think that’s harder to accept because there is no relief that follows that concept. Maybe that’s where faith comes in. Believing that there’s some sense of order even when there doesn’t seem to be any evidence of that. I’m not really sure.
Regardless, I’m reminded that there is indeed lots of good in this world, and that is a relief in itself. And a blessing.